"Joy is not in things, it is in us".
"Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness. We could all do
with a little help".
"Once in a while, when everything is just right, there is a moment
of magic. People can live on moments of magic".
Play is a child's natural medium for self-expression and inner healing.
My work as a children's counsellor involves the creating of an environment
wherein a child can express themselves through play. In order for
the process to begin my role is to create a safe , contained space
with secure boundaries, a non-judgemental relationship with the child,
based on honesty, reliability, consistency, confidentiality and trust.
Thus creating an environment wherein the child can begin to gain a
sense of their own worth and self-esteem.
As part of this process boundaries may be tested many times, until
the child feels safe enough to trust. The creating of trust is very
much dependant on my finding what the child needs to enable this to
be so. Within counselling I may use particular techniques involving
play which act as powerful aids in helping the child make more direct
contact with lost or perhaps hidden feelings.
My role as a counsellor is to bring focus to the significance of the
child's play in relation to their experience via the child's use of
various mediums, for example, art work, puppets, story-telling, object
selection, symbols of relevance to the child. By providing the child
with a large variety of appropriate toys, objects and creative play
materials, the child is enabled to symbolically express, re-enact
thoughts, feelings and fears connected to unresolved or ongoing difficulties.
Within counselling I support the child as they explore, in their own
chosen way, profound feelings. The process of play evolves in such
a way that is appropriate to the child's developmental level and immediate
needs. I engage with the child in play as an equal partner following
the child's needs offering a relationship with an adult who is solely
there for them, enabling an opportunity to speak about things which
may ordinarily not be addressed. Listening to the spoken and also
listening and observing the unspoken. The re-enactment, repetitions
though play enables the child to gradually find a sense of release,
gain greater life skills and understanding come nearer to the acceptance
or working through of their issues.
reasons children have in coming to counselling.
I feel sad ·
I don't want to go to school · I have moved house and everything feels
strange · I feel lonely · I feel angry inside · Someone is bullying
me · My parents have just split up · I am always
getting into trouble · I feel shy · I feel all mixed up inside.
Counselling for young people
As a therapist
I also work creatively with troubled teenagers, tailoring and adapting
the therapy in a respectful and age appropriate manner.
Adolescence is a time of great change, loss and uncertainty. Young
people can experience many external and internal pressures as they
struggle to make sense of themselves, others and the world at large.
Within my experience
I find many young people find it difficult to express their feelings
through words alone. “Creative expression” allows a young
person to show what may have been too difficult to say.
I offer not only
children but young people an alternative means to connect with, express,
release and make sense of their feelings in order to find their own
When a young person feels they have no one they can go to express,
explore and learn about their feelings, they may choose to withdraw,
remain silent, keeping things bottled up inside. This in turn can
lead to an acting out of feelings in ways that are both unhelpful
to themselves and also within their relationships with significant
Within Counselling I will offer young people their own unique means
to explore and release safely, insights and feelings which previously
have proved too difficult to express through words alone. That which
has been externalized can then be worked through allowing an opportunity
to see from new and fresh perspectives. This enables change and a
way of working towards some kind of resolve of thoughts and feelings.
If you are considering counselling for your child or if you are considering
individual counselling or would like support in forming a healthier
attachment with your baby or older child, please contact me.
As children our
self-esteem is profoundly influenced by how our main carers relate
to and treat us.
can be both powerful and effective in creating a close bond between
you and your child.
I offer an opportunity
for both parent and child to feel supported while engaging in a non-intrusive
process which offers a new way of being with your child.
No matter how
bad things may feel, change is possible. Many parents can find it
difficult to cope with a young child, perhaps feeling helpless to
change, yet knowing inside what may be happening feels wrong. “Effective
Therapy” supports and empowers you in the learning of new skills
and ways of understanding what is happening between you and your child
from moment to moment.
also takes place through play therapy. By providing an age appropriate
selection of toys, objects and art materials together with use of
music, song and rhyme, both you and your child are given an opportunity
to connect in a close and profoundly meaningful way.
It can help to
create a new sense of closeness.
It can help build confidence in handling these difficult moments.
It can help develop recognition of the spoken and unspoken needs of
It can offer hope for the future.
to the Child
It can help create
a sense of trust and security.
It can help your child to feel heard and understood.
It can help increase your child’s confidence, self-esteem and
It can allow your child to form a healthier, more balanced relationship
with you and others.
Roslin Brown MBACP